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Sunday, February 15, 2009

there are two types of loners in this world: what i call the involuntary, and the voluntary loners.

the involuntary loners are alone because they have no choice. they are ostracised by others - no one wants them in their group, no one includes them in their conversations, and if they do so, they do so only grudgingly. the involuntary loners often try desperately to be included, often causing others to label them as being "extra". they might be considered a victim of "bullying", even if the bullying is unintentional, even if they are simply just unpopular.

the voluntary loners, however, choose to be alone. although the group is inclusive, they choose not to participate. when something is being planned in the group, the voluntary loners mysteriously disappear, not leaving any hint of their whereabouts. where they are given an opportunity to work with someone else, they choose to give that up, and sit by the side instead, alone and often appearing pensive.

somehow, it's the voluntary loners that scare me more.